how 18 yrs was survived!!

may all b well & happy in everything..it's not easy 2 survive this long & far together plus going thru all obstacles of life esp my part as a friend, wife & business partner 2 him. it ws also a risk marriage that opens its door 2 many things( rivals, women ,jealousy &etc) that possess danger 2 our family.

its all rains, shines ,thunder storms & rainbows.worthy when overcame with patient, understanding & endurance. i thank u all( frens, families, students and parents) who stood by us thru thick & thin.........

what is new or old after 18 yrs.....

18 yrs has passed , many tear has been shed, many doubts has been
understood, many hurdles has been crossed, many joy and laughter with 3
precious darlings. aren't we mature enough to live another 100 years
together without doubt how to handle ourselves and share what we
learned with everyone?? remembering 29th may.......

before i say, i do..............

before i say, i do.......i contemplate in many angles and dimension. i must b at the right mind, foresee and make wise planing , not to hurt, respect, cherish each other for poorer or richness, nurse each other when sickness to health, mistake are for us to learn not to argue who is more right or who made the mistake and most of all mistake are not to be repeat, not to foolishly give up this union unless the other party is foolish in making this foolish decisions and actions, lead when needed, follow when it is right with no harm to others, being a good listener and advise wisely.

18 yrs has passed , many tear has been shed, many doubts has been understood, many hurdles has been crossed, many joy and laughter with 3 precious darlings. aren't we mature enough to live another 100 years together without doubt how to handle ourselves and share what we learned with everyone??

no one is spare.............

no one is spared by jealousy, malicious spoken, challenged and everything bad. not even jesus christ, nabi mohd or buddha. so why shud i hate anyone who do all to me too. u n i r and they were all human too......=D

dont just listen..............

a good listener can b cultivated and it is an art to be a good listener...u listen with ur willing heart, open mind, curious eyes and lastly, tone spoken 2 ur ear. if u only uses ur ear, it is difficult to understand fully but easier fall in2 foolishly understood. misconception, misunderstood , misguided ,misjudged and many 'mis...' occur.

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oso... when other half tend to sway out mutual focus, oni other half can make him/her straighten up or break. i must say i m not clever nor smart but choose to stay wise and aware of what can harm me and my entire family. i loose it, i loose almost all.

i felt sorry for everyone except the person who choose to start a different path with new ... See more union but i cant guarantee how long our union can last. no one can. until one or the other is 6' under.

i have faith in myself but not anyone else unless they stay focus and faithful..... v get a chance to renew our faith and goals together every year or every second....so lets make life exciting instead of miserable...i might b the lucky one or unlucky one one day. who knows....

dun take chances when ur other half is faithful and focus .one day they might burnt out......

i felt sad for ppl i know who r separated and hope i can find a way to mend or help too. its not easy. u need 2b selfless and good understanding to mend things. ego and 'self' can kill a good union......cherish all u love.

marraige...........

when u marry a person ,its a package called, 'not oni love'.................it comes with commitments, same goal,same mind, same energy level, trust,motivation,responsible, respect, cherish, maturing together and many positive values......if there r negative values appearing, pls think more than 2x b4 u say, I DO........I M +VE I DID !!!!!!

happy mother's day..........

2 my mother , mother in law and all mothers ( and dad who stand in as mom when mom is not around) in the world who sacrifises more that ur youth, time, mental stresses and self unselfishly to ur children and family, my salute to you and u r the real ''MOTHER''!!! u deserved the BEST love and attention in the world...............

being foolish...........

respect, tolerance, understanding with rational communication is key to a happy partnership.......dun b a hero or try 2b an island 2 ur partnership! fools argue to win. discussion is a way to make another understand. dun take it for granted. being a good listener too,is an advantage...............

being self centered......

when u r ambitious or ignorant where ur focus is , u will not b aware of where your area of focus shud b..... marraiges, partnership or friendship drown into samsara.

growing up............

young minds r so venerable........growing up enviroment ,who u met, who u worked with, what u experienced and what u heard either shape u to the wrong or right path........

expectation and perfection.........

everyone is not but those who achieved results , tried to understand and work towards understanding how to get close to perfection..........if v did try v somehow get closer to it.if v accept that no body's perfect all the time,then it becomes an excuse for a reason. hope u find justice to ur problem facing justin....... it is difficult when expectation is pushing u to feel this way.lol.